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Tenacity Talk: Confidence

Let's step back in time (no TimeHop, this time) ... about two or three years. If you'll look back at my social media feeds from back then, you'll be hard pressed to find any selfies of me. Or any pics that other people took of me, because I just didn't like seeing them for one thing - but also because I my self-esteem was pretty much tanked from my teen years through the first part of my adult life. I felt that I was such a loser, a nobody, that no one would want to see those pics, to begin with, and they certainly wouldn't care to listen to anything I had to say - or post.
It was during this time that I had to learn the hard way that not everything I thought was true was actually TRUTH. I had to learn that there are things that are in my control, and things that are not in my control. I'm still learning that, actually.

But I believe there's a reason for God allowing me to walk through that, and my confidence has definitely gotten better. There may not ever be a day where I'm COMPLETELY self-secure, but it's definitely better. I mean, come one, I get on fb live pretty regularly with NO makeup on!
The first thing I had to realize as a woman, was when you know who you are and that you're walking in God's will for your life, the peace that comes with that actually breeds confidence in you. It's really a God-confidence, as I call it.

So how do you find God's will for your life? First, before you look anywhere else, look at what He's already told us. The first place to look is the Bible - I mean, He's already given us a guide for walking in His will.

No reason to make it more confusing or mystical that what it is. God created us, and He knows us, so He will let us know His will for us in ways that we can understand. When all else fails, remember: God is not the author of confusion, He won't contradict Himself...so go back to the Word!

There's a ton of other tidbits in the video chat with some Tenacious women here if you have time to watch. Skip to about 4-5 minutes to get past the prep work. :-) (Oh, and watch till the end to get a sneak about a big thing Beautiful Tenacity will be bringing you soon!)

And be sure to comment and share to help other women learn how to gain that GOD-CONFIDENCE that we talk about in this chat!


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